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rm_buymelovepls 39 F
9  Articles
How do I say NO means NO???!!!!!   8/21/2007

* * * I sent him Title: Thank you but I am not interested.

Content: Thank you but I am not interested.

* * * He sent me

Title: Re: Thank you but I am not interested.

Content: So sad u're saying that. At least just give me a chance to please u. Maybe we could have a drinks first.

* * *

(no reply)

* * *He sent me:

Title: u ...

11 Comments, 189 Views, 9 Votes ,3.85 Score
rm_buymelovepls 39 F
9  Articles
Nothing turns a girl off more than Desperados!!!   8/16/2007

I think if we gather all the nasty comments all the girls have gotten, we can publish a thicker-than-encyclopedia book!!! And somehow guys don't realise, sending nasty comments only show how desperate you are, and that is a huge TURN OFF!!!



7 Comments, 139 Views, 6 Votes ,3.08 Score
More on Thank You, I am not interested   8/11/2007

When someone contacts me and their profile does not interest me, I click the quick response and am done. The problem comes when they return email with nasty comments. Why does NO THANKS have to become a slap to your sexuality, sensuality, intelligence, body shape, lifestyle and more?

Maybe the person receiving the NO THANKS should step back for a moment and think that this person has ...

11 Comments, 191 Views, 18 Votes ,4.08 Score
What is Better   7/31/2007

I often am to blunt in saying no thanks. I am not trying to be rude, I just come across that way by saying no when I wish to say no. What is a good way to say no and not be a jerk.

6 Comments, 89 Views, 3 Votes ,2.45 Score
rm_sergio9869 57 M
10  Articles
ahahah it's ok.   7/30/2007

after a long exchange of messages i thaught that it was done.SHE was waiting me...i arrived a bit late.So she said..U are late ..."no thanks".

5 Comments, 92 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
cplseeksgreatsex 30 C
10  Articles
No Thanks??   7/26/2007

I have noticed there are a lot of ppl that write and aren't actally what we are looking for. We always try to be nice and respond to everyone in some way or another even if it is to say 'No Thanks'. But there have been a lot of ppl that get really pissed about saying 'No Thanks'We are really nice ppl and try not to hurt ppls feelings at all but when ppl get pissed all it does is turn us further ...

1 Comments, 31 Views, 6 Votes ,4.79 Score
rm_liodlioness 60 F
5  Articles
Just say NO   7/23/2007

But wow, is it hard to do some times, ....tho to be truthful it is easier on line than face to face.

2 Comments, 60 Views, 4 Votes ,3.25 Score
rm_nutjob13 28 M
1  Article
ever felt bad abut saying no?   6/28/2007

my girlfriend was a virgin and really wanted to lose her virginity to me, but the night she wanted to i had so much stuff on my mind so i said i wasnt ready, she looked quite upset, anything like this happened to anyone else?

0 Comments, 42 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
Ohvlycpl 45 C
10  Articles
Why do some people feel the need to lie??   6/19/2007

If you're not into it, please just say so...if you're not interested, just say so. If you were, then you changed your mind, or got a better offer, JUST FREAKING SAY SO!!! Don't lie through your teeth and say your neighbor died and you'll be in touch soon, when you're more in the mood, when its quite obvious from the recent (dated) testimonials on your profile that you were having fun with others ...

5 Comments, 112 Views, 10 Votes ,4.78 Score
if its what needs to be said   6/15/2007

then say it

0 Comments, 30 Views, 1 Votes
chloebear2 54 F
1  Article
No is a complete sentence...   6/2/2007

It is not always intended to be a hurtful sentence. Oftentimes its just a "You are not my type, good luck to you".

We have all been there and as long as you are kind with your "no" that should be enough.

This site is massive develop a "NEXT" attitude and move on.

I mean really do you really want to waste your time with someone who is not into ...

5 Comments, 74 Views, 15 Votes ,6.04 Score
Your loss emails   5/30/2007

it really annoys me when i am polite enough to say no thanks and some jerk replies back with your loss and i didn't want you anyway. i mean this being an adult site you would think people would tend to be more mature. if i am polite enough to tell you no thank you what's the point in emailing me back in the first place? or if you know you aren't what i'm looking for why keep emailing me asking ...

2 Comments, 90 Views, 10 Votes ,5.18 Score
Unstable individuals   5/30/2007

i received this email and tons of harrassing pms from a guy i told not interested to. it was a response to my email asking him to stop bothering me. this email doesn't make any sense to me because he fails to see that i am not interested still. he has another name on here also that he is harrassing me with.

Finally a civil and kind response, however I would have to disagree with your ...

2 Comments, 105 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
No fucking to untidy women   5/29/2007

I went along the beach on a sunny evening. The time was 7pm. The people who came to the beach are little by little leaving the shore. I live alone. Even I go to my boarding I have to loiter. So I chose to wait some more time. I was sitting on a stone and watchin the sea. After a few minutes, one woman weighing(200kg)with un ugly face and ragged clothes came closer to me and begged me to have a ...

4 Comments, 201 Views, 13 Votes
itsmike692 36 M
32  Articles
joke   5/23/2007

if i big fat girl wants to have sex with you and you dont want to but too scared or shy and you know if you dont say or do anything she will prolly get you in the bed well say fuckin no thanks and if shes gets mad slap that bitch and run

7 Comments, 158 Views, 23 Votes
clickhere4fun67 50 M
1  Article
No Is Better Than Who Knows?   5/22/2007

I send out quite a few emails and get a few responses, most positive and a few negative. I have no problem with rejection, its a part of life and a part of the game on here. All I want to say is be polite and don't leave someone hanging. I mean some of us are a little slow on the uptake and we take no response as well a maybe or maybe later. It doesn't take long to type No Thanks or even just ...

2 Comments, 60 Views, 8 Votes ,2.78 Score
MatureExplorer 71 M
5  Articles
Why is age or distance a barrier to chat/email?   5/11/2007

This may not be the right forum for this, but my biggest bitch about being told "No Thanks" is when a lady has it in her profile "Looking for erotic chat or email" and that's it, no mention of meeting or 1 on 1. OK, seems pretty clear. So I write her and get told that I'm either too old or too far away.

Seems to me that chat and email are just about as pure a meeting of the minds as ...

5 Comments, 177 Views, 13 Votes ,4.15 Score
cumrideit69 40 M
10  Articles
asian girls   4/26/2007

where are all the hot horny asian girls in Brisbane?

0 Comments, 47 Views, 2 Votes
shelbyfireman 51 M
7  Articles
Third wheel   4/16/2007

I have a friend that seems to want to tag along right around closing time. This guy is not real smooth or lucky with the ladies. How does a person restrain him from interfereing with any chances I have. He is a good friend and I do not want to upset him by telling him how he is bringing me down.

1 Comments, 79 Views, 8 Votes ,2.55 Score
how?   4/11/2007

OK, how does a guy tell a woman no thanks gentily?

14 Comments, 198 Views, 9 Votes ,2.78 Score
rm_Sweetsub321 49 C
1  Article
Have you ever noticed...   4/10/2007

Have you ever noticed that being part of this lifestyle also means that we are I guess like elementary school teachers?
Allow me to elaborate, Our profile reads fairly plainly, we arent into single guys, and if we want one, we will write..
Does this stop the piss poor readers from writing.. Hell No!
On other sites, its fairly clear by posted ratios, if you reply to letters ...

10 Comments, 240 Views, 16 Votes ,5.04 Score
Flirtatious_c89 35 C
10  Articles
How exactly do you say it....?   4/9/2007

When faced with a situation of no-interest, how does one say no without seeming rude or stuck-up? A simple "no thanks" often leaves others feeling unwanted and unattractive. Although it seems to be the most often used method. I'm just curious, how would you feel if someone said "no thanks" and nothing further? I would assume most people would move on, but I'm sure there are other reactions.

4 Comments, 104 Views, 14 Votes ,3.78 Score
rm_1dom1dom 48 M
4  Articles
Why cant you get an answer!   4/5/2007

When sending messages why cant you get an answer even if it is a NO Thanks??
It doesnt take much even if its a automated response to say they only get back to people they are interested in.

14 Comments, 346 Views, 18 Votes ,3.53 Score
Nice thing to do   4/3/2007

They teched us about drugs and every "bad" stuff... the same should apply to our free will of saying No Thanks to those tuff situations that your heart says No thanks but you mind says Yes.. always follow the heart..

0 Comments, 12 Views, 0 Votes
why don't guys listen   3/28/2007

we ladies say no why can't guys listen

2 Comments, 173 Views, 6 Votes ,4.22 Score
how to say no   3/3/2007

sometimes i wonder wot part ono dont you fucking get? , i meen no thanks , no, blody no just plain no, if i want ill ask untill then NNNOOOO !...

2 Comments, 45 Views, 3 Votes
rm_gjsteeldick 28 M
2  Articles
it's not easy   2/12/2007

It is not vary easy to say no to sex when every talks about it all the time.

0 Comments, 35 Views, 4 Votes ,4.02 Score
????   1/29/2007

The only reason I can think of to say "No Thanks" is if you knew for sure that he/she was HIV+. And then, I might still if we had protection. I love sex.

5 Comments, 108 Views, 8 Votes
RVAfuckbuddy 43 M
3  Articles
damn the man   1/28/2007

sometimes i have trouble saying no....

0 Comments, 56 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
Responses?? really?   1/25/2007

Love your profile!!!want to meet up? (when they ignore everything in it)
Call me *****
hey wanna chat? wanna fuck?
wanna send me your knickers?
are women supposed to respond to this?

18 Comments, 292 Views, 18 Votes ,4.63 Score
lookinforfunatiu 36 M
6  Articles
How do you say no thanks politely to someone?   1/22/2007


4 Comments, 74 Views, 6 Votes ,3.93 Score
saying no   1/22/2007

no one should ever keep it goin if they say no

1 Comments, 17 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
when to say no thanks   1/19/2007

why do some peolpe persist even after you decline there message? no thanks means no thanks.

2 Comments, 58 Views, 3 Votes ,3.92 Score
rm_lvg183 33 M
1  Article
The day I found saying 'no' more satisfying than going for it...!   1/17/2007

I recently had an ex-girlfriend come and stay with me for a few nights, for a bit of a catch up, see the new house, and so on. Now, this really was my first love, and though it didn't work out, we'd had casual sex on countless occasions during the 5 or 6 years since we broke up.
This time though, absolutely nothing happened. We've known each other so well, that it almost felt ...

2 Comments, 74 Views, 5 Votes ,4.12 Score
RedJello79 44 M
2  Articles
Honesty   1/13/2007

When someone asks you way you decline, how honest do you get?

3 Comments, 60 Views, 3 Votes ,3.92 Score
wildcatr27 52 F
11  Articles
Not going to apologise for not saying 'no thanks'   1/13/2007

I have been on here for 2yrs now, had different profile information from the fun light hearted to the serious dont mess with me. However on all of them I make it very clear what I am and am not looking for. But yet this still doesnt stop some from contacting me, again and again, and even sending abusive messages calling me names.
In the beginning I used to reply to every ...

2 Comments, 176 Views, 11 Votes ,4.48 Score
umhithere15042 29 M
1  Article
Question...   1/10/2007

Do the females on this site really get so many messages a day that saying "no thanks" to a guy would take up too much time? I've sent out a decent amount of messages through the email and also through the IM, and hardly ever get a response of any sort. And my messages aren't immature or poorly worded, either. Does anyone know the explaination behind this?

6 Comments, 222 Views, 4 Votes ,4.02 Score
rm_klepto112 35 M
4  Articles
Not as easy as just saying no   1/10/2007

I few months ago I was involved in a semi-srious relationship with this girl, semi because I wasn't too serious about it. What the situation came down to was quite a big deal, and I'm sure some can sympathize with me. She asked about our future together, not hers, not mine, OUR. She had fantasies about getting married, and at my young age that was a definite no. I broke it off as a result, ...

1 Comments, 32 Views, 2 Votes ,3.12 Score
rm_DayManLI 62 M
3  Articles
It does happen   1/9/2007

Well 2 years ago got a responce from a local couple, to meet up after 1100pm to bed then we play. A third guy was to contact me. Got the call met up with him, I parked at a strip mall, He drove down the block lucky it was only 4 minute walk.. when I returned, when I got there there pictures looked nothing like them and when she laid on the bed there was no bed left. So thats when I said NO ...

1 Comments, 124 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
politely saying no   1/8/2007

As a guy sometimes saying no to a woman is both weird and a hard thing to do but everyone knows it has to be done sometimes due to some situations. I might be that the other person is not physically attractive or just plan out there. The best thing to do is to follow the old saying do unto others as you would want them to do to you. Be polite about and just say sorry I 'm just not ...

0 Comments, 19 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
Missed Out (again)   1/6/2007

I used to work with a bloke I'll call Bill. He was my immediate boss and we got on together pretty well. He wasn't long married to Lorelei who was funny and slim with a pixie face. I went to some parties at their house with a gf from time to time but I didn't know Lorelei well.
One day Bill arrived at work distraught. Lorelei had told him she wanted out of the marriage and the ...

0 Comments, 75 Views, 7 Votes ,2.53 Score
It's not always wise   1/5/2007

Unless you have a good reason, it's not wise to say no thanks, maybe the ofer you turned is a really good thing and you don't know what you missed. before you say it think the following: "No thanks" means one of two things: - you really don't like the offering person - you are really satisfied with what you have and don't want to switch to anything else
If neither is your ...

0 Comments, 17 Views, 1 Votes
rm_shellken2 50 C
1  Article
don't understand?   1/1/2007

Why is it when you state in your profile exactly what you are looking for you end up with a lot of "what you want and don't want", as in ours it clearly states"no men or couples".It's not meant to be rude, but still yet we recieve very unwanted pros.So please take a moment an look at a profile, cause you might just be lookin' in the wrong place an i'm sure were not the only ones who have ...

2 Comments, 49 Views, 3 Votes ,5.39 Score
time2try69911 35 M
1  Article
Yes or No?   12/31/2006

Is there really a choice, if a girl asks a guy do you think he is going to say NO?

0 Comments, 38 Views, 2 Votes ,5.20 Score
CaptainJose 38 M
5  Articles
Polite?   12/31/2006

I guess I'm a little unclear on social graces when it comes to places like bookstores and swing clubs. Suppose you're approached by someone you have no interest in...what is the best way to communicate that without being painfully awkward?

0 Comments, 27 Views, 0 Votes
Rogerthehardone 46 M
2  Articles
Nothing easier than this   12/30/2006

Saying "No thanks" is not difficult at all. In fact, nothing easier than this. I say ... Having sex is a privilege ... But refusing sex is a basic right. Same thing with a relationship. So why making life more complicated as it is? A polite (but polite, please) "No thanks" should always been easily accepted. Those who do not understand a polite "No thanks", go to hell.

0 Comments, 14 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
william9345 47 M
3  Articles
Being rude   12/29/2006

How many times does one have to say "no thanks" before he can be out right rude about it ?

1 Comments, 60 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
scrtlvn 54 F
10  Articles
Refusing advances from another person   12/26/2006

Trying to let a person down isn't always an easy thing. What do you do if they don't take no for an answer? Or if they keep emailing or IM-ing over and over even if you ignore them? If you've talked to them before and decided they weren't the one, how do you then get them to back off? It becomes a problem in this type of situation if they just don't get it! Should you just get ...

5 Comments, 59 Views, 5 Votes ,3.47 Score
rm_NE_Charlie 53 M
10  Articles
Saying what?   12/21/2006

I just can't say no! I can't wait to meet anyone now on here!

0 Comments, 31 Views, 2 Votes ,1.73 Score
bigboy69foryou 36 M
10  Articles
females   12/21/2006

who here has said no thanks to a guy that was asking you to hook up? would you say it to me?

5 Comments, 145 Views, 4 Votes ,1.69 Score
bigorgasmlicker 41 M
10  Articles
For the Guy's...(mainly)   12/19/2006

I had to say no (or did to a pussy that I later found out the girl (a roomate) had forgotten to remove a tampon. I realize for her own sake that could be very toxic to her body... but wow - and she's still alive today, but man have I never smelled anything like that!


1 Comments, 132 Views, 0 Votes
Thanks, but no thanks   12/19/2006

If a man actually takes the time to read my profile and sounds like he's a decent guy, he'll get a polite "thanks, but no thanks" with an explanation if I'm not interested.
For those who don't take the time to read the profile and send out "form letters, " they get absolutely no response. I've been pretty honest about what I want and don't want; I don't have time to play games. ...

2 Comments, 82 Views, 7 Votes ,5.08 Score
rm_LeeMgr 57 M
1  Article
A different perspective   12/18/2006

Well I am new to this site as a paying member and recently became a gold member. I had a profile on this site for years, but never seemed to get anything except occasional men or TV's. Since I always considered myself attractive I probably overestimated what this site had to offer a guy like me. Dont get me wrong, I dont think I am Prince Charming, but I thought I was an above average ...

1 Comments, 47 Views, 5 Votes ,4.45 Score
i have too   12/17/2006

i need to learn to say no thanks when getting emailed every day!!buts hard to ignore people.

0 Comments, 21 Views, 0 Votes
bi_ga_stud2007 46 M
20  Articles
try it   12/15/2006

saying no is really hard to do264

0 Comments, 14 Views, 1 Votes ,1.10 Score
I can say "no" nicely, but......   12/11/2006

I can decline an invite with tact and charm. However, I find that, in most cases, no matter how nicely I say "no", the party I am declining becomes upset and hurls insults. For this reason, many times I simply do not reply to emails (my auto-reply does say I rarely chat privately, so don't expect it). When being propositioned in a chat room, especially if his profile states he would not ...

5 Comments, 135 Views, 9 Votes ,6.20 Score
Respect the other person's opinion/decision.   12/9/2006

Something that really irritates me after saying "I'm not interested.", or "This isn't going to work for me.", after meeting a man, is when they insist that I give them a reason(s)!! This can't be done without either 1) the liklihood that he'll be offended or hurt, or 2) he tries to tell you how wrong you are, or misinterpreted something he said or did, or, etc., etc., etc. Then you ...

2 Comments, 55 Views, 6 Votes ,5.36 Score
What to do when friends get interested   12/5/2006

How do you tell friends (in one bad case more than one at once) that you aren't interested in them, but rather in someone else, while still maintaining a good friendship?

0 Comments, 24 Views, 0 Votes
i0youone1112 58 M
7  Articles
People just don't read....   12/2/2006

The frustrating thing is that people don;t read profiles. I don't want to hurt anyones feelings, but, PLEASE READ BEFORE YOU WRITE...

0 Comments, 80 Views, 12 Votes ,5.80 Score
i0youone1112 58 M
7  Articles
not easy, BUT...   11/25/2006

Just say No thanks, I found what I want...

1 Comments, 129 Views, 4 Votes ,2.47 Score
possom2006 49 C
2  Articles
No Thanks VS. No Responce   11/21/2006

We were recently contacted by a 19 year old man. When we said "No thanks" your'e not what were looking for, he proceded to swear and say all sorts of nasty things. We thought we were doing the courtious thing by at least responding to say sorry.
Would you rather hear no thanks or nothing at all? We know we would always like feedback. Sometimes it's ok if we dont hear back, we ...

8 Comments, 196 Views, 18 Votes ,5.58 Score
Learning to just say no   11/14/2006

Seems like there's a lot of people on here that are willing to say "yes" when you first meet them. They still say "yes" and lead you on for a while. But they'll never commit to it - and finally when you've arranged a time and place to meet, they say no. Why do some people lead you on? I suppose it could be my fault (maybe I said something wrong that broke the deal), but after a couple of ...

1 Comments, 61 Views, 3 Votes ,2.94 Score
bluewolf-BD 62 M
2  Articles
Suggestions for reducing the number of messages   11/13/2006

If a woman, (I have never heard of a man complaining about too many messages) wants to reduce the # number of messages. Here are a couple of suggestion
1. If you have a photo, remove the main photo and only have photos 2 through 5. This will get rid of / reduce # the men who send messages based on a photo only.
2. Put in your headline / greeting what you ...

0 Comments, 60 Views, 1 Votes ,5.00 Score
bigboy69foryou 36 M
10  Articles
saying no   11/8/2006

is it rude to say no thanks to someone bc ur not attracted to them after you found out what they looked like?

1 Comments, 124 Views, 4 Votes ,2.08 Score
moruti 36 M
1  Article
Courtesy   11/5/2006

it s pretty obvious that an individual can change their mind even after some initial interest. The question is why not have the common decency to let the other person know straight up instead of ignoring them. to me that seems a bit rude or am i expecting too much in terms of good manners?

1 Comments, 53 Views, 6 Votes ,2.51 Score
scrtlvn 54 F
10  Articles
Changing plans for a meeting   11/4/2006

What is the best way to tell a person that the meeting set up for the first time, just isn't what you want afterall. Should you let them down gently? Or should you just be straight up and to the point and say you just don't want to meet anymore? Is there any right or wrong way to do this?

3 Comments, 75 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
no   11/4/2006

I think people should be honest and upfront when they're not interested in someone. Why not? Its easier in the long run for everybody.

1 Comments, 25 Views, 0 Votes
rm_coolllcouple 39 C
1  Article
How to approach using IMC   11/1/2006

How do you guys go about contacting memebers using IMC.
You are only allowed a small amount of characters to make the killer line, so what do you say???
The usual fancy a chat normally gets rejected straight away. How can you tell someone you are honest and genuine in possibly 3 small words???
Frustrating to say the least....

2 Comments, 69 Views, 5 Votes ,3.14 Score
guys looking for straight guys/lesbians   11/1/2006

i suppose ladies must have this problem too, mainly straight guys hastling people who aren't that way inclined. do they think they can turn straight guys gay and lesbians straight? why don't they get we put our preferences in for a reason? why do i always attract gay guys? rant over

3 Comments, 77 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
lilmissbi4bi1 45 F
3  Articles
HOW DO U SAY NO THANKS   10/31/2006


3 Comments, 111 Views, 7 Votes ,3.30 Score
prnipplepincher 67 F
1  Article
some blind dates are a disaster   10/29/2006

I had an era of having a disaster after another when dating. Once I met this guy at a store, as we arranged. And I thought he was going to kiss my hand when he hold it, but he bit it! I was so pissed that I left and never wanted to see him again. Maybe he thought that was going to turn me on...

3 Comments, 110 Views, 8 Votes ,2.78 Score
trucknpappy 57 M
1  Article
Why wont women respond   10/26/2006

Why is it that women will not respond to em sent to them even if its to tell you to look some where else that there not interested ?

7 Comments, 372 Views, 9 Votes ,4.07 Score
rm_DDtit_21 38 F
1  Article
How to say no   10/26/2006

Often when I am in the chat rooms, I will be talking to another member and there is always that one person who will not leave you alone. I ask that they please wait or email me and I will get back to them. Of course that doesn't work. I can be asking questions to the member I was originally speaking to and the desperate member will continue to answer too. I know it isn't a mistake b/c I ...

0 Comments, 47 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
rm_loverfish2 48 C
7  Articles
So what's the deal already??   10/24/2006

We are a happy go lucky, easy to deal with couple who just loves to have fun! We love to laugh and have a good time in and out of the privacy of our home.
When we see a couples profile that we like, we send them an e-mail and wait for a response. And wait, and wait, and if people aren't as interested in us as we are at first glance to them..
Why is it so ...

2 Comments, 81 Views, 7 Votes ,4.06 Score
Games That People Play   10/23/2006

Fun, both physically and mentally. That is the normal goal of most online adult dating/chatting sites. Some use the sites simply to chat, some use it in the hope of obtaining physical contact. Some seek both. Either way, sailing the tide of online adult dating/chatting can be daunting, even for the most experienced navigator. A recent experience demonstrated to me just how daunting and ...

2 Comments, 55 Views, 4 Votes ,4.80 Score
zande_r553 36 M
10  Articles
how to say no   10/20/2006

if a girl u dont find attractive contacts u how do u say no without being an ass

4 Comments, 92 Views, 5 Votes ,4.12 Score
rm_happy42385 42 M
1  Article
dear girls   10/19/2006

When you are trying to tell a guy that you are not interested, please be very clear and not stand offish. I have never experienced this, but I would suggest you to be honest. Tell the guys that you just aren't into them and you'd really appreciate them not to message you again.

1 Comments, 29 Views, 4 Votes ,2.47 Score
scrtlvn 54 F
10  Articles
When someone wants to meet   10/17/2006

It's hard enough meeting people you are interested in. But what do you do when someone is interested and you're not? Telling someone that you're not interested isn't always easy, but usually if you honestly tell them why, they appreciate that more than being ignored. I usually tell the person up front that I appreciate the offer, but I don't feel they are the right person for me. If they ...

2 Comments, 58 Views, 7 Votes ,3.80 Score
rm_rook115 44 M
2  Articles
hi there   10/11/2006

just being able to say no thanks is hard to say to someone sometimes.

1 Comments, 29 Views, 3 Votes ,2.45 Score
rm_Castigala 47 M
1  Article
How to let someone down....   10/9/2006

I want people's opinion on this, I feel bad sometimes when I have to say "I'm not interested" whether I felt that there was no attraction or something else influenced my decision, what's the best way to reply to emails to turn them down?...

2 Comments, 161 Views, 4 Votes ,2.47 Score
rm_guyinbann2 41 M
2  Articles
all guys   10/9/2006

seems to be i only get emails from men when my profile says no men will they ever learn?

0 Comments, 26 Views, 3 Votes ,4.41 Score
YrSecretPlaymate 49 F
1  Article
Well   10/8/2006

At least they say no thanks and tell you rather than meeting you, having a wonderful time and never speaking to you again.......
You were saved......

1 Comments, 64 Views, 6 Votes ,3.37 Score
sunilup777 46 M
11  Articles
How to say no for which u don't like but ur partner likes that   10/7/2006

Please tell me how to convience or say no for any sexual activity which u like but ur partner don't likes or ur partner likes but u don't.

0 Comments, 27 Views, 0 Votes
rm_swmocpl38 55 C
1  Article
We dont understand   10/5/2006

We dont understand why some people get offended when we are just not interested in them.Some act like we just killed their or something! LOL! We have tried to be as nice as we can about it but it doesn't seem to work. Most of them happen to be men. How do we keep from hurting someones feelings?

1 Comments, 77 Views, 7 Votes ,3.04 Score
dfwmale28 45 M
8  Articles
Kind   10/1/2006

Its kinder to say thanks but no thanks than to ignore an approach.

2 Comments, 30 Views, 7 Votes ,2.02 Score
bc209670 36 M
11  Articles
Trendsetter   9/28/2006

As grown adults we come here to prevent the creepiness and disrespect of everyday life. It's a place where we can voice our needs and wants in hope of a match, but why can't we be honest with each other. Whether it would be with physical appearance or what you truly feel. So what if people cross the lines all you can do is be brutally honest, but with tact. Then if they keep it up there ...

0 Comments, 33 Views, 7 Votes ,3.30 Score
saying no   9/26/2006

its not easy saying no as you can hurt peoples feelings, most people on here will get over it without thinking too much on it but a few wont, just have to choose carefully.

3 Comments, 67 Views, 6 Votes ,2.51 Score
teninchtonguelol 49 M
5  Articles
Unwanted   9/25/2006

I don't really have too many problems with telling someone i'm not interested. I am polite and just say that i don't think there is a connection between us. As a rule i try to treat others with a degree of respect, as i like to be treated. Even the odd gay person that contacts me will recieve a "thanks but no thanks". It's only complete idiots that i do not bother to waste my time on.

2 Comments, 52 Views, 5 Votes ,3.14 Score
bc209670 36 M
11  Articles
You have to earn respect   9/23/2006

Within the past week I've recieved invites to gay encounters even though I was very specific about wanting FEMALES. But they do it any way. These people I just disregard like some marketing ploy for they don't deserve the niceties. Otherwise I have no problem with being completely honest, with some tact, for that is what I would want and do ask for. So for all those who feel like lying ...

0 Comments, 32 Views, 2 Votes ,3.12 Score
rm_brad40oz22 41 M
2  Articles
How to say your not interested without saying it   9/23/2006

Other than flat out telling someone your not interested, you should have backup plans. If you go to meet someone and they werent what you expected or werent feeling them; I can't think of many good ones off the top of my head but i'll try a few: feel free to add on suggestions
-you could have someone call you pretending its an exmergency *lame excuse but its hard to ...

1 Comments, 40 Views, 5 Votes ,2.82 Score
nymphoforlife86 28 M
9  Articles
can a guy say no to sex :P   9/18/2006

nearly every male i know would not turn down sex , however alot of female friends of mine say no to their partners. Just wondering why some females do not want sex as badly as males?? i know that there probably are guys out there that say no to there partners, but would like to know how many

3 Comments, 71 Views, 2 Votes ,1.73 Score
rm_fsm729034fun 53 M
1  Article
Safety first, even for guys   9/15/2006

I am very picky about the person I give any information to. When I have to say no thanks, I always let the other person know that I an not rejecting them, but I have a list of things that I look for in a potential relationship and that I do not believe that I would be appropriate for her at this time in my life. I think being nice about saying no thanks is as important as saying yes. ...

0 Comments, 36 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
iwantu2wantme82 32 F
5  Articles
Ok so   9/13/2006

I know what this site is all about but how many times to i have to say no thanks.If you email me and i dont respond then im not intrested..I have three guys who have emailed me 60 tims in the last month.Can you say stacker!!!Get a clue

6 Comments, 204 Views, 8 Votes ,4.64 Score
rm_assman960 48 M
3  Articles
What's up?   9/11/2006

Is it just me, or do alot of you out there find that there are a lot of others on this site who don't know how to respond to someone they're not interested in?
We are all adults on this site, and are all (most of us anyway)here for the same If you aren't interested in meeting someone it is courteous to send a reply.

4 Comments, 55 Views, 5 Votes ,3.80 Score
rm_dont_know82 42 M
4  Articles
how do you say no thanks nicely   9/5/2006

well when there such a great person how do you say no to them with out hurting them to much

1 Comments, 52 Views, 2 Votes ,3.12 Score
hornyblkslutnbam 49 F
8  Articles
please respect the wishes of others   9/4/2006

i love the new instant messenger program provided by Shagbook but i find that people don't respect any of what you have placed in your profile. i specifically ask for a certain age group and am bombarded daily by people who do not fit my requirements. how hard is it to respect the wishes of others. why would you impose yourself on someone only to be rejected. is it that some of you like the ...

1 Comments, 77 Views, 13 Votes ,5.83 Score
hornyblkslutnbam 49 F
8  Articles
to all of you "couples" with the invisible wives   9/1/2006

i just want to say no thank you. i've had enough of the fake couples. the ones where the wife had surgery and no longer plays or she says it's ok for me to play along because she has her friends too even though their profile states in bold letters WE DO NOT PLAY ALONE. i'm just grown tired of deceptive people. either you are a couple or you aren't. now don't get me wrong i'm not ...

5 Comments, 124 Views, 17 Votes ,6.52 Score
When I say no I fee guilty!!   9/1/2006

Has this happened to any of you.. you write clearly on your profile the age limit, the likes and dislikes and always polite about your request and you still get people who do not read the profiles!!! I am not the type to get angry but it upsets me becz I am poilite and like to respond to anyone who takes the time out of their busy day to wirte.. but come on people as a standard memeber I ...

2 Comments, 122 Views, 14 Votes ,4.42 Score
hornyblkslutnbam 49 F
8  Articles
no matter how you try to be respectable.......   8/30/2006

it just doesn't work. i've found when you tell a majority of the people thanks but we don't seem to be interested in the same things but good luck on your search, " they seem to get angry. i've tried the nice approach and the not respond approach but it doesn't seem to work. i've tried every thing i could think of but only rudeness seems to work. one guy got upset because i politely ...

2 Comments, 56 Views, 8 Votes ,5.56 Score
SexyTrinaInPa 37 F
4  Articles
What is the nicest way to say no to someone   8/28/2006

I have in my profile cleary stating I am not into other race but Latino or black but yet so many other people e-mail me or IM me and I tell them I anit into it and they say am harsh how cant I say it in a nicer way please let me know


0 Comments, 59 Views, 3 Votes ,1.96 Score
rm_angel_fariy 44 F
2  Articles
how do you say   8/25/2006

how do you tell someone you've met on here that you are just that into them is there an easy way to let someone down

4 Comments, 117 Views, 7 Votes ,3.55 Score
rm_yorksrose 65 F
2  Articles
Photo's   8/20/2006

Hi Guy's, If you all want an honest opinion, then here's mine. Regardless of what anyone says, for a lot of women, me included, there has to be some physical attraction / chemistry for us to want to sleep with a man. But physical attraction is like beauty, definitely in the eye of the beholder ! So why don't you all try putting face photo's on here. And try being honest, a lot of us ...

0 Comments, 97 Views, 8 Votes ,5.10 Score
rm_utbogie 37 M
4  Articles
no means no   8/18/2006

even when a guys says no he means no so stop trying

0 Comments, 41 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
PLEASE BE CLEAN!!!!!   8/17/2006

The other night we invited this girl we met on here (Her handle will remain omitted) but lives within 50 miles of us. We contacted her the usual way...first email, then phone tag, then we webcammed a little. She is very attractive and fit. Nice breasts, hard tummy...great butt...the works. Well we made a date to meet last weekend (Saturday Night) and she said "ok". We (Dan and were soo ...

8 Comments, 323 Views, 20 Votes ,7.34 Score
Leading someone on   8/17/2006

I feel I have lead this girl on I know, which was something I never set out to do.She txt's all the time and its starting to turn into stalker territority.How do I tell her to leave me alone without having to be really harsh?

1 Comments, 71 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
rm_msgoodkitty 60 F
1  Article

Can anyone tell me WHY ON EARTH folks half ass read your profiles???? If you've taken the time to add things you think folks should know about you and what you want why in the DEVIL is it that you STILL GET MAIL from people trying to CHANGE YOUR MIND or giving you some IDIOTIC RESPONSE because you say THANX but NO THANX!!!! What GIVES??????!!!!!!

2 Comments, 31 Views, 2 Votes ,5.20 Score
Getting out of a bad situation   8/7/2006

What would be the best way of getting around the question of sex with someone you like, but not that well? I like sex as much as the next person, but sometimes it's just not there. there's got to be some kind of chemical reaction going on. i want to feep this person as a friend. but this sex thing always gets in the way.

2 Comments, 83 Views, 5 Votes ,3.80 Score
TSnTuscaloosa 41 T
1  Article
NO THANKS   8/7/2006

Ive been on here for a while now and I can relate to alot of what I have read about having to say no thanks. I set my filter to weed out the ones that I wouldnt be interested in so that there are no hurt feelings. BUT, sometimes they DO slip through the cracks and you get responses from someone thats just NOT anything close to what your looking for. NOW, My pet peeve here is that ALOT of ...

4 Comments, 108 Views, 10 Votes ,4.98 Score
peachez_w_cream2 46 C
19  Articles
saying no   8/3/2006

its really hard too say no thanks to people when your a nice person its really really hard

2 Comments, 65 Views, 4 Votes ,2.86 Score
I Miss You   8/2/2006

If they could, they would think twice before they did it. But do not thou go handling fire andthinking it will not hurt thee. That is the thanks you get for trying to save her, Brother Martin. Why would anybody leave a prison if they could get out? That does not seem to me to be consistent; but ofcourse I agree with your lordship. However, if you will answer for that I will swear for the ...

0 Comments, 11 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
I Miss You   8/2/2006

If they could, they would think twice before they did it. But do not thou go handling fire andthinking it will not hurt thee. That is the thanks you get for trying to save her, Brother Martin. Why would anybody leave a prison if they could get out? That does not seem to me to be consistent; but ofcourse I agree with your lordship. However, if you will answer for that I will swear for the ...

0 Comments, 9 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
rm_Chaz_Jen 39 C
3  Articles
Not taking No for and answer!   7/29/2006

Have you ever met a couple on here that just want take know for an answer. We Did. One night anfter a long day we was taking to a couple on our IM that we had gotten email from a couple of time off of Shagbook. After a few mins, the male of the couple ask us to call him on the phone, So we did. While taking he invited us over. We told him that we had been working all and need a show and really ...

3 Comments, 195 Views, 8 Votes ,4.87 Score
no thanks   7/26/2006

how come when we put no single guys on our profile they still email us a bunch and some of them are the same from when we emailed back and said no thanks. does no thanks mean please email us again i think not so please people if you get a no thanks it means no thanks.

2 Comments, 53 Views, 7 Votes ,4.57 Score
The Polite Way to say, 'Mind Your Own Business'   7/21/2006

The location was Calaveras County Fairgrounds in California, and the Mountainaire Music Festival, was a three day event, but I made it there on the second day, and camped one night. Any ways, just like the old days of the parking lot scene at a Greatful Dead concert, It was like a reunion of drugs that I hadn't taken since those days, and an introduction of ...

0 Comments, 47 Views, 4 Votes ,3.25 Score
Ixnay206 43 M
9  Articles
Multiple Emails   7/19/2006

I find it terribly rude the way some people fel that if you don't respond to one of their emails right away, they need to send another one. Unfortunatly, this is very common. One person sent me 3 in a 24 hour period. To me this is just plain inappropriate. There are several reasons why someone may not respond to your message and to continually send messages saying "Are you interested in ...

0 Comments, 41 Views, 4 Votes ,3.25 Score
My experience in telling some one , NO THANKS   7/17/2006

My husband and I have been doing threesomes with bi men for about 3 years now. We really enjoy it, and there are times that my husband likes to meet the guy and then fuck, I for one like to meet some one first for a drink or a burger or some thing to break the ice. Well we had an encounter at a hotel, we were paying for the room, we met the man, he was nice, he came to our room , he was ...

0 Comments, 130 Views, 3 Votes ,2.94 Score
rm_misslindsey 39 F
1  Article
"Thanks But No Thanks"   7/13/2006

I think the best way to say "thanks, but no thanks" is letting them know, up front, no games... no bull... just go.

7 Comments, 173 Views, 10 Votes ,5.77 Score
Jump in and get wet   7/10/2006

So my wife and I were cruising through the profiles and she asked me a question that surprised me. We have been swinging for a few years so her question seemd out of the blue to me. Her question was "Do people really just meet and fuck?" Now, if you have been swinging at all, you know that sometimes you do and sometimes you don't. When we meet or interview a new couple, we usually meet at a ...

2 Comments, 355 Views, 16 Votes ,4.60 Score
rm_jordan20061 43 F
1  Article
What's up with the one line e-mails?   7/6/2006

I'm really getting very bored with the Shagbook e-mails. I hate not responding, but when a guy writes, "Hi, your hot.. call me.. can't wait to meet" Why should I even bother. Does he really believe a woman is going to call him? I know nothing about him. He has no picture on his profile then writes back stating "I knew you were a fake and not real" If he is not going to take the time to write ...

6 Comments, 279 Views, 22 Votes ,7.09 Score
I just cant say no.   7/5/2006

I met a young lady 18 yrs old in Dec. we were in bed the 2nd day. I really loved this young girl. About 3 weeks ago her best friend called me and I just couldnt say no. I fuck her twice, her friend found out and I regret it I should have just said NO.

0 Comments, 181 Views, 8 Votes ,1.16 Score
2  Articles
NO THANKS..........!!!!!!!!   7/4/2006

ya in the club you try dance with the finest women she looks at you strange..its no thanks...
if a girl tells you meet her somewhere an you are standing there 4 hours..its no thanks
if ya over a girls house tryna start sex convo, an she is constantly changing the subject..its no thanks
if you tell a women you have a big dick b4 you meet her..then wen she ...

2 Comments, 134 Views, 14 Votes ,0.90 Score
Ladies, please respond to Emails   7/3/2006

When a guy emails you, you've certainly gotten his attention. If you aren't interested, give him the courtesy of a response indicating that. If a guy asked you to dance in a club, would you just turn around and ignore him, or would you at least give him an answer. That's all we are asking for, is just a response. Yes is better of course, but anything will do, even 'let me think about ...

6 Comments, 152 Views, 16 Votes ,3.27 Score
rm_OnlinePixie 36 F
1  Article
Pic VsProfile   6/30/2006

Being new here, I have been quite overwhelmed by the large number of responses I have gotten. However out of 45 messages only 3 have bothered to read what im actually after and responded to that. While flattered, why would people not check the profile?? If they are not after the same thing, they are not just going to jump up to meet the person who messages them so why bother? Do they really ...

6 Comments, 244 Views, 15 Votes ,5.27 Score
The_grim_pinguin 35 M
3  Articles
Hmmm   6/22/2006

Having this problem in my life. I have a stable relationship for the last 1 and a half year. Thing is a couple of girls started revolving around me and I didn't tell them I had a girlfriend, for no reason I can think of but I didn't do it. What can I do cuz telling them would hurt them...I guess.

1 Comments, 59 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
imakeuwet75 48 C
9  Articles
People who get mad   6/19/2006

Heres the story.I put some one on the hotlist.They email me.I emailed them back.Then they sent another email saying"I don't think you want us look at our profile again.We are looking for a female so we can do each other while my husband watches".I said"I did see your profile and it says in the beggining we are looking for women, men, couples, group ect...Not just women.Maybe you guys need ...

1 Comments, 240 Views, 11 Votes ,3.92 Score
To swing BI- or not BI how to say no to couple or not?   6/16/2006

I found myself in a situation where I thought the couple read my profile and new that I was new at this and it would be a threesome I wanted . I said would be interested in a threesome activity. When I arrived the husband was the only one there and was only interested in a onesome me. We discussed and show pictures of his wife with others and though that would DO IT FOR ME. He explained ...

0 Comments, 90 Views, 3 Votes ,1.96 Score
rm_ozmassageguy 49 M
5  Articles
The best way to say no   6/15/2006

The road to Hell is paved with good intentions they say.
When knocking someone back, the best way is to just say No!
Dont add excuses ever, like not my type, or incredibly ignorant things like race, age, earnings. All these things do is compound the hurt and in some create complexes.
Just saying a stern no is best, and if pressed for why the best recourse is because I ...

1 Comments, 63 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
kuntry_stud4u2 38 M
1  Article
Easiest way to say it   6/15/2006

Does everyone have a hard time with saying "NO THANKS to meeting someone there not interested in?

0 Comments, 54 Views, 3 Votes ,2.45 Score
Best way   6/14/2006

Whats the best way to say no on this site. It seems I get lots of emails even when I've told them I'm not interested.

1 Comments, 76 Views, 3 Votes ,2.94 Score
3  Articles
Saying No Thanks right now?   6/13/2006

Someone told me they were moving or potentially moving and I would like to know her more but do not want to get my hopes up. I just moved back to my hometown and trying to help my get settled on her own and myself. Any ideas? THANK YOU!!!!

0 Comments, 39 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
rm_OralFirst4us 56 M
2  Articles
Be nice...   6/12/2006

I've ben out at least 3 or 4 times with someone from a dating site that did not exactly match my expectations. Most of the times I find it really hard to interrupt the date, and I always keep positive attitude. I think sometimes that forcing myself to be nice and stay is the right punishment for not being careful and patient in selecting my "dates". At the end of the date, usually it all ...

0 Comments, 38 Views, 4 Votes ,3.25 Score
Politely saying "no thanks" to a gay come on.   6/11/2006

I've been hit on by some fabulous looking women. But, growing up in New Orleans taught me no 1 has 2 walk away angry r sad I go into everything expecting at the worst a new partying buddy r some1 I can introduce 2 a friend. My reply is always when she hits on me is the truth. Thanks for the compliment, but i'm sexually attracted 2 men only. But let me buy u a drink beautiful and we ...

0 Comments, 48 Views, 6 Votes ,2.80 Score
rm_aaragorrne 37 M
3  Articles
is it really that hard?   6/8/2006

I dont understand why people cant just say it straight up. its easier in the long run so why nota?

0 Comments, 17 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
rm_killa300 35 M
1  Article
is it ok for a guy to say no   6/7/2006

sometimes when i come home from work and im tired or agitated or just dont feel like having sex my girfrien gets pissed is that ok for her to get pissed or am i being insensative

0 Comments, 30 Views, 2 Votes ,3.81 Score
xtremelyhard4u3 55 M
11  Articles
me, sayin no?   6/7/2006

thats just one thing i will not say when offered sex!!

0 Comments, 21 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
smoothjones1000 44 M
2  Articles
courtesey   6/4/2006

Do you think more members should at least reply to an iniatial contact from somebody

3 Comments, 91 Views, 5 Votes ,3.47 Score
rm_Iammpb 33 M
2  Articles
Advances From Other Guys   6/3/2006

The one where I always feel weird is when I get advances from other guys, to which I have no interest. I usually give a "Thanks for you offer, but I'm just not into that."

0 Comments, 24 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
johninsomewhere 43 M
8  Articles
What would u want to hear??   5/31/2006

It can be difficult to tell a new friend/prospective swinging partner that sexually you are not interested, especially if you like them and enjoy their friendship.
Would you want to hear "Thanks, but....?
Certainly you wouldn't but you also would not want a new friend to shy away because they could not find the words to be honest. This would leave you to wonder why they ...

0 Comments, 22 Views, 1 Votes ,3.70 Score
how difficult is it for you??   5/29/2006

tell me guys and do you say, "thanks, but no thanks" to someone?? is it just that easy?

4 Comments, 201 Views, 7 Votes ,2.79 Score
why   5/28/2006

why do gay men always hit on straight men or pretend to be womnen i dont get it

0 Comments, 36 Views, 0 Votes
Intriguing   5/25/2006

The situation of having to say no thanks has never arose, I just can't afford to be that fussy! Come on though girls let us down gently if we are only trying to make contact, then if we persist.... let 'em have it no mercy.

0 Comments, 25 Views, 0 Votes
How do you turn a woman down?   5/24/2006

If you were to meet up with a woman and she is not what you expected, what is the best way in saying no even thou she is soo into you?
what would you do if you was about to get down and dirty with a woman and her juices had a bad smell, how do you get away without being rude?

0 Comments, 14 Views, 0 Votes
heycometalktome 44 M
10  Articles
The Thankful No Thanks   5/22/2006

I suppose this is more of a "topic for discussion" than an article.
I think that a lot of men aren't very picky when it comes to sex. Not saying that all aren't, but most men are more picky than women, I think. I AM, though. Maybe I don't need to be... but I am. So when it comes time to say "No Thanks" to someone I always feel kinda awkward about it, mostly because of the "I ...

0 Comments, 23 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
'No' is fine...just say something   5/21/2006

I think most general...handle rejection well. So why can't people just have to courage to say THAT much? I'm talking about the people who go for weeks with a luke warm attitude to relationships.

0 Comments, 44 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
Just Saying No   5/20/2006

It's not a hard thing to do. We do it everyday. What am I referring to? Just saying, "no." No, I'm not going to work today. No, I don't have any money to lend you. No, I don't want any peas with my carrots. Unfortunately, we too often say no without saying anything at all. And I am just as guilty of this as so many others. Receiving an e-mail, invitation or just a simple wink, ...

0 Comments, 19 Views, 2 Votes ,3.12 Score
whats the deal   5/17/2006

Why is it that people do not understand what thanks but no thanks means. They get upset like you owe them something, like just because you are on an adult site you have to want to engage in sex with whomever sends you a note. Why is this people help me out?

0 Comments, 21 Views, 1 Votes ,5.00 Score
rm_Hard2Guard 44 M
10  Articles
No thanks   5/16/2006

Don't be shy, just say no and kick 'em to the curb. They're old enough to accept it, they'll get over it.

0 Comments, 15 Views, 1 Votes ,5.00 Score
JayandMay 53 C
3  Articles
Don't Leave Them Hanging   5/15/2006

There have been times when I have taken the time to meet up with a member here at Shagbook, but for me the chemistry was not there. It gets a little awkward. I usually try to enjoy the meet and greet, and later contact them via member email to let them know that I appreciate them coming to meet me, but I try to communicate nicely that I do not want to pursue the relationship any further.

0 Comments, 69 Views, 3 Votes ,4.41 Score
How nicely some people say ( NO )   5/14/2006

We don’t want to hurt people , that’s obvious , but we want to be honest and say what we feel, if I don’t fancy I’ll so and I expect the same , but in a nice way.

0 Comments, 33 Views, 2 Votes ,5.20 Score
A Kind Refusal   5/13/2006

Sometimes it can be difficult for people to let someone down nicely. For example I found myself being hit on by a gay man at a bar. I've never had a lot of exposure to gay men, and I was at a loss as how to let him down easily. How is a person supposed to know what the right thing to do is when this sort of thing has never come up before?

1 Comments, 72 Views, 4 Votes ,4.02 Score
nascarbaby2 54 F
16  Articles
How can you grt it through to there head?   5/12/2006

I want to know why some guys just don't know when you stop? I mean come on when a woman says no thanks or i am not interested what does this tell the guy? Sometimes it like it tells him to ask more and it really gets on my nerves after a while and i am not a mean person but i go my limits...t

1 Comments, 36 Views, 7 Votes ,2.28 Score
needingsum06 35 M
1  Article
Should I have said no?   5/7/2006

Recently I went on a trip for work and it happend to be where one of my friends lives now. I hung out with him the whole time I was in town. Well, I also meet his brother and his brothers girlfriend. We would hang out and drink and we all had a good time. One night, we were talking about a threesome and my friends girl, lets call her Sam, seemed like she was all for it. My friends brother, ...

0 Comments, 105 Views, 3 Votes ,2.94 Score
rm_asskisser5 54 M
2  Articles
bent5   5/6/2006


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Some Hints About Saying 'No Thanks'   5/5/2006

These are just some ideas from my perspective, they represent how I would want to be treated, especially if I met someone in person, and they weren't interested. Take them or leave them, it's up to you.
Be prompt.Don't leave the person wondering, tell them right away you are not interested. Yes, the person is likely to get the hint eventually if you ignore them (some ...

1 Comments, 98 Views, 6 Votes ,5.64 Score
swappers61554 48 C
1  Article
Why is this so hard?   5/2/2006

You finaly meet this person and then you realize that you are not interested at all. So now what? You should just tell him right? Well how do you do that with out sounding like a b*tch. Now some people don't care if they sound like a b*tch but i am one of those silly little people who care about other peoples feelings. Unless I have a real fear of catching something then i will usually go ...

3 Comments, 187 Views, 17 Votes ,2.70 Score
PJ2b 51 M
5  Articles
The Trouble With Saying "No Thanks"   5/2/2006

This isn't much of a hook to this article, but let me preface this by saying that my Dad raised me right in one respect, I have the greatest respect and admiration for women in general.
That being said, ladies, you need a reality check in one respect. On the admittedly rare occaisions that it happens, (most guys are sluts) it is orders of magnitude harder for a man to say no to a ...

0 Comments, 53 Views, 5 Votes ,5.75 Score
exoticat1 47 F
1  Article
What was I thinking?   5/1/2006

Ladies, do you ever look back at some of you past sex partners and wondered, "What the hell was I thinking?" I wonder what it is that goes through our minds the moment we make the bad decision to sleep with someone we know we don't like. I've had that little voice saying "Don't do it" but did it anyway. Then I kick myself in the butt later. Sometimes we are tricked because we are in ...

0 Comments, 49 Views, 2 Votes ,3.81 Score
rm_bdm1198 50 M
6  Articles
it is so easy   4/28/2006

it is so easy to say, but so many people can not do it. why??

0 Comments, 34 Views, 2 Votes
rm_carlover712 42 M
2  Articles
my bad   4/26/2006

not sure whats goin on

0 Comments, 37 Views, 0 Votes
12licker22 63 M
10  Articles
no means no   4/19/2006

just be respectful and things go smoothly.

0 Comments, 52 Views, 4 Votes ,2.08 Score
mixed messages   4/19/2006

A few days after joining the site I got several messages in capital letters - 'PLEASE READ THIS XXX' from a 'clit-lover5'. We had a lot in common so I replied, he seemed nice, we exchanged and had some really good conversations and also exchanged some saucy texts.
I was rather overwhelmed by the intensity of his response to me - 'I feel we have really connected and I'm looking ...

4 Comments, 310 Views, 14 Votes ,5.06 Score
jessesgirl2002 43 C
3  Articles
HELP   4/19/2006

is there a polite way to say that you are not intrested?

0 Comments, 162 Views, 3 Votes ,1.96 Score
whatsername86 37 F
3  Articles
Nah....   4/9/2006

Should you even really have to say no thanks? Are some people that clueless?

11 Comments, 450 Views, 32 Votes ,1.18 Score
KandyCoated4U 46 F
8  Articles
Don't go away mad!   4/7/2006

just go away.
I got an e-mail from someone saying just tell me to go away if you are not interested.Ok I read what the person had to say and found that I was not interested. i very nicely told him, I am sorry but at this time you are not what I am looking for. I wished him well and bid ado. Then i get another e-mail asking me why I was not interested. Ok I`ll explain. As I did ...

2 Comments, 266 Views, 19 Votes ,5.76 Score
married_cpl2006 50 C
4  Articles
When saying no is hard...   3/30/2006

Its hard to hurt someone's feelings and when there is a mutual agreement to meet there is also usually a mutual thought in having some desired fun. When you arrive and you find that the pics you saw are outdated and that things have started to drop, you get disappointed. Its easy to hide behind your computer and say "no thanks" but in the real world it can be very hard on you. We ...

1 Comments, 157 Views, 9 Votes ,4.07 Score
Glory Hole   3/26/2006

I went to a "peep" adult theatre that had glory holes. A guy put his dick through the hole and I slapped it silly with my dick. When he took it back, I put mine through. He sucked it dry. He then proceeded to put his back through. I left the booth. Was this the right way to handle saying no?

1 Comments, 452 Views, 9 Votes ,1.72 Score
oneonone71974 43 M
1  Article
Best way to say thanks, no thanks.   3/26/2006

Ladies, what's the best way to tell someone you are not interested after you meet them? Email? Phone call? Another meeting to say it?

3 Comments, 238 Views, 5 Votes ,3.47 Score
seriousswingging 42 C
1  Article
be real   3/25/2006

since being on this sight We have come across a whole lot of game players. What is so hard with saying not interested instead of leading people on, when you are the ones making the first contact. The sight says ADULT friendfinders not MY SPACE.

2 Comments, 157 Views, 11 Votes ,3.17 Score
vagrl4fun96 27 F
5  Articles
What a asshole   3/23/2006

I was on Shagbook one day and found a guy(dc5r2002) that i had alot in common with so i email him and within 10 mins i got one back. we started talking. we talked for about 2 weeks almost ever day. he live about 1 hour from which is not that far. He asked if i wanted to hang out to at least meet. so i argees. we decided to meet at the mall where he lives. so i went when i got the i wanted for ...

19 Comments, 1919 Views, 99 Votes ,6.29 Score
rm_jmwilen 40 C
7  Articles
What if?   3/23/2006

What if you've already chatted with the person a few times and even flirted, you're getting along well and they send a pic of themselves, then you realise you're not physically attracted to them? You don't want to let them know it's their appearance that put you off.

3 Comments, 263 Views, 5 Votes ,3.47 Score
wontknowtillutry 58 F
7  Articles
What part of No don't you understand.   3/22/2006

Lately, I've found it very frustrating. I mean, I have a profile that says no married men, an instant message that basically says 'hi, thanks for writing but if you are married or there is no photo, you probably won't get a response'
Then when someone writes that I am not interested in, I either send them one of the quick 'no thanks' or a personal one (depending on the quality ...

5 Comments, 296 Views, 20 Votes ,5.04 Score
rm_couple_leeds 36 C
2  Articles
No thanks   3/22/2006

Recently I asked someone to join us for a threesome, and although she didn't want to, the way she said no was so kind and polite we didn't mind one bit. Being nice never hurt anyone!

0 Comments, 74 Views, 7 Votes ,3.80 Score
nicetolookat69 60 F
11  Articles
whats up with fisting?   3/19/2006

I'm very curious about people, who are into fisting, My God, its some times hard to take in a penis, never mind some ones freaking hand and arm, !! Do women really enjoy it?, or do they have low self esteem and thats their way to get and keep a man? And whats wrong with the men that can do that? Is some thing wrong with their penis? It seems like that is the ONLY thing, they can get UP is ...

12 Comments, 860 Views, 30 Votes ,4.81 Score
viagra   3/17/2006

i took one once ......great all night long

1 Comments, 188 Views, 3 Votes ,0.49 Score
Why is it some women have a hard time simply saying "No Thanks"?   3/12/2006

I find it hard to understand why some women string a guy along rather than simply stating "No Thanks". In my opinion, no means no and a polite "No Thanks" is all that's needed...are women harassed on here to the point they don't even bother?

1 Comments, 54 Views, 4 Votes ,3.63 Score
terbear1622 56 M
1  Article
Why   3/11/2006

Why is it so hard for someone to just tell someone that they are not interested. Someone emailed me and wanted to meet so I emailed them back and told them that I would like to. I have not heard anything else from them. You send out emails and winks and get nothing and then see them online and it just leaves you wondering. I don't understand. I would be nice enough and say no thanks. ...

0 Comments, 50 Views, 8 Votes ,4.17 Score
LinkinParkSadGuy 40 M
1  Article
Just say it   3/11/2006

Some people try and find a nice way to say no to sex. Making excuses isnt they way. Just be honest. I know when I told her I wasn't in the mood, she wasn't too happy though. Oh well, shit happens.

0 Comments, 29 Views, 2 Votes ,3.12 Score
rm_Dustin569 39 M
4  Articles
How to say No Thankyou   3/7/2006

Some people have ben asking me how do I brack up with someone with out hurting them in any way shape or form and i tell them that is imposible if you brack-up with someone they will be hurt in some way wether you ment to or notyou can only be true to yourself if you tell them the truth and don't lie they will under stand.

0 Comments, 21 Views, 0 Votes
pinmsa2 51 C
98  Articles
How Is Sex Like Riding A Bicycle?   3/6/2006

1. You have to keep pumping if you want to get anywhere.
2. It's best to wear protective head-gear when going into unfamiliar territory.
3. You can do it with no hands, but it's best not to try it until you have a lot of experience.
4. It's easier to learn with the help of someone who has a lot of experience.
5. You can do it by yourself, but it's usually not ...

1 Comments, 112 Views, 14 Votes ,6.02 Score
karenlynn70 53 T
8  Articles
how to say no thanks   3/6/2006

The easiest way is to simply say no thanks- we dont click and walk out the door.

0 Comments, 46 Views, 6 Votes ,2.80 Score
BlackCorp 40 M
1  Article
A Breakdown in the "rules" of Social Interaction?   3/6/2006

Humor me if you will; a woman is walking down the street and she sees an attractive man and greets him with a hello and a smile. Naturally, society would expect for him to smile and return the greeting, whether or not he was interested in getting to know her personally.
In fact, if he failed to acknowledge her greeting, society would deem his behavior to be impolite at best and ...

9 Comments, 366 Views, 21 Votes ,5.97 Score
rm_goodguyEd 42 M
0  Articles
Dont under estimate the benefits of a good massage.   3/5/2006

Have you ever wondered if your partner would freak out if you started sucking her toes? Or have you ever though that you knew her g spot and come to find out your way off base? <br> Some advice for you then.... Learn how to perform a sensual massage and take you time in doing it. A massage is one of the most rewarding and telling forms of foreplay there is. You have her lying out ...

0 Comments, 32 Views, 2 Votes ,3.81 Score
why are people not straight forward?   3/4/2006

why is it people beet around the bush and do not respond when they send you winks or add you to hotlist? wouldn't it be better to say no thanks instead of keeping the person guessing? Or is that what they are after?

1 Comments, 80 Views, 6 Votes ,5.07 Score
rm_ballguy3 44 M
15  Articles
Saying No!   3/3/2006

Saying no thanks is definitely a must if you don't want to. Why should it be frowned upon? It's not worth it if you don't want to. Individual choice is important.

0 Comments, 21 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
postcode rule   3/3/2006

i am going on holiday soon, with the lads, do i have a bit fun with the girls out there or should i stay strong and not cheat, we have not been together long, but dont know how long we could last? <br> What would you do?

0 Comments, 287 Views, 5 Votes ,2.16 Score
helenrUKbigirl 48 F
1  Article
when no thanks means no thanks   2/28/2006

just wanted to say that when you say no thanks its not a personal attack and therefore do not treat it as such.

1 Comments, 402 Views, 23 Votes ,4.53 Score
rm_moone1977 46 M
7  Articles
No?   2/28/2006

Sunday nite is was out celebrating Irelands win in the 6 nations and hooked up with a girl I hadnt met before[friend of a friend], she was a pretty little thing and we ended up back at my house, everything was going really well and after both giving and recieving oral I made a move towards intercourse but was shot down. I didnt push the issue, even though it didnt leave rolling over to go ...

0 Comments, 127 Views, 4 Votes ,1.30 Score
curious5162002 56 C
1  Article
just do it!   2/27/2006

if somebody is not interested, just so no!! sometimes a person may feel like they are being strung along, and that's worse than being told no. we send out winks and e-mails on this site and i would hope that if a person is not interested, they would say no via message. i think that is common courtesy. it's worse to be strung along than being told no, we feel. feelings can get hurt, but ...

4 Comments, 186 Views, 10 Votes ,3.98 Score
Is it wrong?   2/27/2006

I was just wondering if its too much to say on isn't interested...or how best to say No thanks to, drink or even sex.... <br> how ould u do it?

1 Comments, 154 Views, 3 Votes ,1.96 Score
rm_crow086 50 M
1  Article
Why be rude?   2/24/2006

Has anyone noticed how rude some girls are when they are looking for another girl in the chat room. If you dont say women only you are fair game.

1 Comments, 83 Views, 3 Votes ,2.45 Score
Jack_white7 36 M
6  Articles
When you come off the wrong way.   2/24/2006

When you get to know one of your girl friends, friends and she thinks that you really want to get with her. What should i do?

0 Comments, 143 Views, 3 Votes ,0.49 Score
rm_myuhinny 49 M
4  Articles
why say no   2/22/2006

why do the girls that a person likes always say no thanks

0 Comments, 169 Views, 2 Votes
wxxxa 50 C
3  Articles
Be nice unless they persist too much   2/19/2006

My husband is not new to the lifestyle. Him and a friend hooked up because his friends wife was really into him. They never did anything sexually, but remained close friends because he was able to be honest with her. They taught him everything he needed to know about the lifestyle. All the "rules" that were expected of you as a couple or a single male. Be polite, straight forward and ...

0 Comments, 126 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
rm_vixensf 46 F
1  Article
I've never had that problem.   2/18/2006

They've already said no thanks to me first! <br> Oh tell a lie maybe when I was still a but I was lucky, , I never got landed with some bunny boiler of a stalker, I guess that actually means that nobody's ever actually really liked me LoL. <br> I don't get stalking, I really don't, don't these people have lives to get on with, recently my schedule's been so jammed packed ...

0 Comments, 219 Views, 12 Votes ,3.15 Score
rm_berlando2003 48 M
1  Article
saying no huh or no thanks   2/13/2006

well i never could say no to a fine woman i love them all lol and want them all

0 Comments, 23 Views, 0 Votes
funlovingirl5 38 F
2  Articles
what is their problem   2/13/2006

why do men have a problem with woman saying NO does anybody else find this

0 Comments, 128 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
kissntouch1000 35 F
2  Articles
Why dont they get it   2/12/2006

How many times do you have to tell them that no thanks not interested before they get it. I try and respond to all of the people that email and when I say no thanks, they tend to keep trying. I guess I could just block them but I shouldnt have to. They should just give up on the first NO thanks. Maybe someone else can tell me what more I should say to these people to make them get it. ...

2 Comments, 333 Views, 7 Votes ,3.55 Score
Being rejected is better than being ignored.   2/8/2006

Very few things irritate me more than being ignored, which is why I sometime wonder why I keep coming back to this site. <br> I know how to write letters and generally try to respond to the tone and content of a profile. I'm not rude or crude, at least I don't think I am. I'm older than most and not particularly handsome but those are no excuse for rudeness. Yet only 5 to 10% of ...

4 Comments, 114 Views, 5 Votes ,4.77 Score
How to say no thanks and still keep a friendship?   2/5/2006

Now in my 30's I think I enjoy the company of women and appreciate that a lot more than when I was in my 20's. Nowadays I like to meet women for friendship and go out on platonic dates, if the spark isn't seriously there between us. I find that the women I am meeting generally have a different agenda, to find a bf or partner only. <br> Any thoughts? Guys? Rather than girls please ...

0 Comments, 156 Views, 0 Votes
coletorrey 33 M
2  Articles
Worst Pickup Lines Ever [And Thier Reactions]   2/3/2006

Just though this might be entertaining, to see what the responses are. <br> Recieved (From a guy in the same dorm, no less): "So I've been writing these stories about us..." <br> Found the quickest way to get out of thier possible. Turns out I was the last person in the building to find out about these "stories". <br> Used (To a nervous-looking girl at the ...

0 Comments, 152 Views, 3 Votes ,1.47 Score
primedandready69 49 C
1  Article
Not quite right   1/31/2006

I have seen a lot of articles from guys complaining that the women here are stuck up and hurtfull or that they are straight out Bitches. I know that some of you guys have been on this site a lot longer than I have and have had more chances to be rejected than I have, but don't make this out to be more than what it is. You are on an INTERNET SITE you are not in the real world and probably ...

0 Comments, 175 Views, 6 Votes ,5.64 Score
dirtysecrets04 50 C
1  Article
What do you do when someone you meet oversells themselves?   1/31/2006

Meeting new people on Shagbook is like biting into a piece of chocolate and not knowing what the filling is inside. You don't really know what your getting into until you bite into it. Shagbook is similar as you don't really know what type of people you'll meet until you actually meet them. <br> We had an experience that made us double-think what we were doing on Shagbook. Our first experience as ...

3 Comments, 193 Views, 7 Votes ,5.33 Score
rm_fiersomestud 36 M
5  Articles
Saying "No Thanks" to a wasted girl   1/30/2006

I'm a guy who believes in sex ethics and I reject sex as a selfish act. I'm a strong drinker, so I don't get drunk that much, but I have seen quite a couple of wasted girls whom could have been hooked up for a one night stand. And yet, I feel it is unfair and I build an empathy instantly. It is hard to reject a girl after a couple of rounds, but my conscience just halts me there. I mean, is ...

4 Comments, 146 Views, 2 Votes ,3.81 Score
rm_secretladie1 49 F
1  Article
WHy do guys make themselves sound soooo desperate?   1/27/2006

WHy do guys make themselves sound soooo desperate? If i say TY for your time but i dont think me and you will work out good luck on your search please take it like a man. Please guys read the profile long and good. RE-read it. If it goes furter with me giving my e-mail then you might have a chance but, after we chat if I say "No Thanks" then take it like a man and say TY for your time and ...

7 Comments, 440 Views, 20 Votes ,5.17 Score
fuckablecock4u 37 M
1  Article
So is it true   1/27/2006

Now a days sexual harassment is reported alot more than it used to be. And that is great especially if you truly are offended and have tried speaking with the person about it, unless it is extremely overt. My question is simply is it equally fair for a man to claim sexual harassment. Or would that be frowned upon. I have heard of a few cases where the man was actaully harassed and then ...

1 Comments, 78 Views, 1 Votes ,1.10 Score
flirtyone2006 42 F
9  Articles
Guys please read   1/27/2006

I don't want to be rude but when I respond to your ad and say that you are not what I am looking for sending me a picture of your cock isn't going to make me forget everything and rush to jump that bad boy.

7 Comments, 419 Views, 9 Votes ,5.35 Score
rm_aheartflash2 58 F
2  Articles
Red Flags for Bondage   1/23/2006

Example of one reason when I say "No Thanks": <br> <br> He wrote: <br> I like bondage. I enjoy role play that involves me "seducing" the woman who lightly struggles against my neck kisses and light fondling as I lighty but forcibly undress her. Kind of a I want to, I dont want to, kind of thing. Nothing rough or physically abusive or degrading. I am a level headed ...

0 Comments, 137 Views, 9 Votes ,4.49 Score
rm_Raist2021 45 M
1  Article
All depends on if they can read or not   1/22/2006

If they match the cupid settings that I took the time to fill out then I respectfully decline, simple no thanks covers it well. But to be blunt if they are grossly not matching anything I asked for I don't even respond. <br> I know that's rude but at the same time I don't bother woman who go out of their way to say they want a certain ethinicity or are honest enough to say I need ...

0 Comments, 117 Views, 7 Votes ,4.82 Score
rm_I_Heart_Dick 38 F
1  Article
I fucking said NO!   1/21/2006

It sucks when u go out with somebody and then they totally turn on u...I'm talking about in the bedroom...they turn on u and decide they want to fuck u in the ass...well anal might b okay for some people...but for me i view my asshole as an exit if i even feel like my ass might b compromised i act a fool...tending to scream "wrong hole wrong hole"...well some men just need to ...

1 Comments, 327 Views, 6 Votes ,3.93 Score
rm_lgm4u3092 62 M
2  Articles
why   1/17/2006

why cant people have the courtsey to at least ansewr someones e mail and just say no

1 Comments, 102 Views, 8 Votes ,3.48 Score
rm_Happy32DAN 51 F
20  Articles
no thanks have different meaning   1/15/2006

I know no thanks means no I dont want you. But look when you are the reason for this no thanks response how you handle it. you wanted things to work out. you dig for it. you wanted to get the good reason. I have dated this guy, and I thought that he likes me, well it was ok for the first time, but later on he kept hiding, I was not comfortable with that, I wanted to ask him is it no or ...

0 Comments, 100 Views, 7 Votes ,2.53 Score
spankme2times2 65 M
17  Articles
How come it seams like its always the wrong one hitting on you?   1/15/2006

Jr. high I had a major crush on a cute little blond girl her big gangly sister had a thing for me. the big sister was the first girl to ever ask me out! Two years lateer stoned in a bowling allay I was hit on by an older guy. us guys do not have to say No! as often as you girls, but be truthfull, If you arre not interested in me say so, dont try to make it easyier by saying stupid things ...

0 Comments, 184 Views, 5 Votes ,0.86 Score
RealHardnHorny 52 M
1  Article
Misrepresentation?   1/14/2006

Someone I met on here (platonically) complained about the number of "players" on this site. Those that talk the talk but don't walk the walk. I soon learned what she was referring to. I've lost count of the number of women who list in their profile that they'd like to meet: men, 2 men, a man and a woman, 2 women"...hell a veritable orgy. <br> So common sense tells me that if ...

1 Comments, 350 Views, 15 Votes ,5.73 Score
guy1234563 40 M
11  Articles
No Thanks   1/10/2006

Just say no. It saves their feelings.

0 Comments, 123 Views, 4 Votes ,2.47 Score
mytushieisurtush 40 F
2  Articles
Trying to get others to understand   1/10/2006

With so many responses and not as much time it is hard to give drawn out details on why I may say no thank you. With so many people on this site, one person may say no and the next may say yes. So once you have received a no thank you response don't keep emailing new offers or requesting drawn out details on why it was a no. Everyone here is looking for specific traits or characteristics in ...

6 Comments, 162 Views, 15 Votes ,2.67 Score
rm_Mz_thick2 47 F
33  Articles
Do u know what it means   1/8/2006

Some people don't understand that no means no!!!!!Why is that?

0 Comments, 132 Views, 3 Votes ,2.45 Score
sexytinkerbell19 37 F
4  Articles
it really pisses me off   1/8/2006

It pisses me off when not only guys, but guys old enoough to be my father, email me saying they can turn me on to men. As if they just glanced at my profile and pics and didn't read it. Then I tell them, I have my cock, and they say, "Oh, yeah, a rubber one?" NO ASS! Ignorance and stupidity are just things I can't seem to get a grasp on tolerance for.

0 Comments, 564 Views, 14 Votes ,4.58 Score
rm_Shep253 34 M
20  Articles
why   1/5/2006


0 Comments, 141 Views, 4 Votes
goodstuff1954 65 C
6  Articles
because it hurts feelings   1/4/2006

We had said no thanks and the next questions is WHY? so now you have to tell why. why what that you did not want to have sex with them. same as any place the words are RESPECT OF OTHERS. why do guys say women don't understand no hell guys don't understand no either. so who is right and whos wrong. the ones whom show respect for the other person and don't keep coming back for more of the ...

1 Comments, 213 Views, 2 Votes ,4.50 Score
rm_use2besassy 50 F
3  Articles
how afraid are we?   1/3/2006

I was just wondering how saying NO THANKS is a bad thing? At least you get a answer and not strung along.

3 Comments, 273 Views, 4 Votes ,5.57 Score
rm_Richo1986 37 M
9  Articles
No means no   12/30/2005

Fellas out thier. If your at a party or somthing and a ladie tells you no once stop right thier. If you continue they could get you with . Times have changed be careful.

1 Comments, 133 Views, 4 Votes ,3.25 Score
Kansas_man_2001 51 M
1  Article
How to best say NO   12/29/2005

I personally feel it is best to be honest and up front when you say "NO". <br> I actually try to add a little explanation but saying..... "No thanks, I'm not interested." I've been polite by saying "thanks" and stated clearly "I'm not interested." <br> Enough said? I think so. <br> I would appreciate it if someone respond to me in this way and in return ...

0 Comments, 79 Views, 6 Votes ,2.80 Score
SweetCherryLuv76 38 F
1  Article
Replying to Emails   12/28/2005

Why is it that some peole say a person is rude if they do not reply to an email but when a reply is sent and it is not the reply that person wants to see, they get upset. Is it me or has insecurities seeped into the internet?

4 Comments, 185 Views, 10 Votes ,2.99 Score
RiadXGuy 48 M
1  Article
If you got it , and you flaunt it. Accept it .   12/25/2005

Ok, i see it this way, If someone out there is showing the jewels to the whole world, and say someone of the oppsite sex gives their 2 cents on that object. Chuck it up and swallow it hard, since GUYS are HORNY more than woman, and Im sure guys Beat out the women 2 to one so, If you got a nice cock, Ill be the first to let you know how nice it is

3 Comments, 64 Views, 2 Votes ,0.34 Score
wakeboarder20054 36 M
3  Articles
Please...   12/23/2005

I wish women on this site would reply to e-mails with a "no thanks" if they are truly not interested. Instead, many of them tend to simply dismiss the e-mails and leave the guys to sit around wondering.

4 Comments, 181 Views, 5 Votes ,3.14 Score
NO ?????????   12/23/2005

When women say NO, they really mean NO but If a man was to say NO dose he really mean it?

0 Comments, 60 Views, 2 Votes ,0.34 Score
shecheatedonme 34 M
2  Articles
When on the rag?   12/22/2005

How do you feel about having sex while the female is on her period (on the rag)? Post away...

5 Comments, 351 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
saying no   12/21/2005

when you meet someone you are not sexually attracted to the best response to them is we would love to have another dinner date.

1 Comments, 219 Views, 12 Votes
rm_MtpRob 45 M
4  Articles
Commen Sense? I think so.   12/20/2005

Hello first of all to all who might read this. I can only hope some do. I'm a 27 year old male from Mid Michigan, and have been a member of one user name or another, since around September of 2001. And in that time, I have sent many emails, IM's, chat messages, winks, etc to many different women. Sure, I get the occasional profile pop up in "who's viewing me, " but rarely does anything ...

0 Comments, 97 Views, 7 Votes ,3.55 Score
rm_smrtazz77 45 M
1  Article
Real Profiles/Game Players & Fake People   12/19/2005

It's pretty ironic that women on here and or in general pretty much demand courtesy and respect from us men. No woman wants to hear in their initial email "Hey nice ass or Tits, when can we fuck?" or "I have a large cock, when can we meet?" To most those lines will get you nowhere here or elsewhere, but for the occasional males out there like myself that are courteous and respectful seems ...

6 Comments, 271 Views, 16 Votes ,6.80 Score
On_the_Hunt69 44 M
5  Articles
Is it that hard   12/15/2005

To many times I have sent E-mails to women and then never heard from them. Is it that hard to write back and say that you're not interested. I mean lets have a little bit of repect for each other. No one here wants to waste time with someone who is not interested in them. So just save everyone some time and just say it, "No Thanks".

0 Comments, 131 Views, 3 Votes ,3.92 Score
rm_cruisekitten 53 F
1  Article
Why can I say no without getting hasseled   12/8/2005

My profile sum everything up. I am a very picky person and if I say no to someone they get all bent out of shape, why is that? I have standards just the same as everyone else. I love sex and I love the feeling of making love to someone special, I don't want just casual sex with anyone. It would be nice to say no and the other person without the hassel. I have had sex with a few people on ...

4 Comments, 493 Views, 20 Votes ,3.89 Score
We_r_in_love 49,1944 C
4  Articles
What is a good way to say NO?   12/3/2005

I have had some guys come on to me that worked for my husband I said no but they still would not stop the flirting so my husband handled it for me he was in the Military at the time... How would you have delt with it?

1 Comments, 121 Views, 6 Votes ,1.66 Score
rm_stiffsource 46 M
8  Articles
how to say no thanks?   12/1/2005

when I don't want to be with a woman is there a polite way to let her know without pissing her off or making her feel bad, not unwanted, just no sex?

2 Comments, 212 Views, 4 Votes ,2.08 Score
phi161 43 M
7  Articles
How do you tell someone you like to chat with not phsycial?   12/1/2005

Just curious for thoughts and ideas...

2 Comments, 102 Views, 2 Votes ,1.04 Score
Just Say No   11/29/2005

When will guys means no? They're giving us a bad rep out there!

2 Comments, 95 Views, 7 Votes ,4.06 Score
hardinwentzville 54 M
2  Articles
What is the best way to let someone down on Shagbook?   11/21/2005

I would say be upfront. You should write, "Sorry, don't mean to be to tough, but you are not my type."

1 Comments, 233 Views, 10 Votes ,2.19 Score
Wouldn't It BE Nice   11/21/2005

Women on these dating sites write all kind of things. they write they want sex and love, friendship. so i write them. now this i think is an adult site. the words i read on here are not ment for neither are the pic.i may say in a letter hello i would enjoy having sex with you as you said in your profile. here is the answer i get from them. get lost you sob you will die alone. one wrote me ...

6 Comments, 293 Views, 14 Votes ,2.82 Score
fatmushroomtip03 47 M
7  Articles
at least say something   11/11/2005

If someone takes the time to acknowledge you, the courteous thing to do would be to at least respond that you are not interested. Or if a standard member winks at you and you are silver or gold member, why just wink back? If you are interested send them an email- obviously they just winked because they can't email you first and are interested in you. So if you don't send them an email they ...

0 Comments, 248 Views, 16 Votes ,6.07 Score
rm_kdkas 54 C
3  Articles
Why Wink??   11/9/2005

When people wink we like to respond with an email thanking them for the wink, telling them a little about us and inquiring if they want to get to know each other. On more than one occasion that email has gone unanswered. Is it something we are doing wrong by responding with an email or a better question is why wink if you not going to follow up even if it's with a no thank you?

3 Comments, 319 Views, 10 Votes ,4.58 Score
__Seeker__ 50 F
5  Articles
Courtesy vs. Being an ass when you are turned down by someone.   11/6/2005

OK - Let's pause for a moment to thank God that some people have the grace to bow out and not take offense when someone rejects them. <br> That being said... What is with these people that freak out on you, spouting "I'm better than blah blah blah" "Gimme a chance" "Looks aren't everything" etc etc etc <br> Give me a break! If I turned you down and stated, you aren't my ...

4 Comments, 287 Views, 15 Votes ,5.27 Score
seeker_o_passion 50 F
2  Articles
It's happened to me - it can happen to you too!   11/6/2005

Although it doesn't happen too often, I have had someone say "No Thanks" to me, as I have said it to others so many times before. There are alot of ways to say it. "You aren't what I'm looking for", "You're not my type", "You're too aggressive for my taste"(Which was actually said to me ), "I can always use more friends", "I'm not really dating right now". Any way you spin it, it's a ...

0 Comments, 237 Views, 8 Votes ,4.64 Score
moe12005 54 M
4  Articles
Do I just come out and say   11/3/2005

We have been talking to a couple and they seem very nice but they are not what we are looking for. My husband has never been a big fan for BIG tits and she has like DD I would like to go out for a drink to get to know them but I don't think he will be going for the sex. I myself like sex so much I am willing to grab some tits that are bigger than just a B. (thats all I am) How can I talk ...

0 Comments, 199 Views, 6 Votes ,4.22 Score
dhak_dhak_dil 49 C
8  Articles
Courage to say No to Sex   11/3/2005

I am telling you the story when I was living with my wife and having a 3 years. I was living with my wife for the last 4 years. One of my collegue working with me was unmarried and was having crush upon me.One we were invited officialy from our one of the office . She told me that that she will accompany with me on my bike. At that time I was having a bike. At 8.00 Pm we started and she ...

0 Comments, 279 Views, 9 Votes
ThickWitIt1980 44 F
9  Articles
Your Not My Type?   11/2/2005

OK so as we all well know the male to female ratio is way off on this site!!! It's like a Sausage Fest on here! That being said me being a fairly attractive young female you can imagine I get quite a few responses and most of them completing disregard my preferrences completely I don't ant to be mean but when I view a guys profile and I see they don't like something about me I move on ...

6 Comments, 473 Views, 13 Votes ,4.99 Score
goodstuff1954 65 C
6  Articles
why do women and men not read   10/31/2005

one has to wonder about this. profile says no anal. why ask? says we play together why ask for him or her toplay alone? why is the respect in that where is the trustin all of this. lets see if some can answer this one. you e-mail some one and they pull up your profile to find perfer not to say on every thing come on you want to play give some information to go on.

1 Comments, 71 Views, 3 Votes ,2.94 Score
rm_jjrobbins20 40 M
2  Articles
This is good   10/31/2005

The only thing a man is going to say no thanks to is fat women

6 Comments, 313 Views, 20 Votes
rm_101101001 58 C
75  Articles
Would you join a group...   10/31/2005

Dear Shagbook members; <br> How many of you would be willing to join a discussion group, where the membership requirements are. That you must be willing to go with a current group member or the group’s moderator, for free and anonymous HIV testing (say within thirty 30 days from joining the group) and share your test results with each other to prove that you are both HIV ...

0 Comments, 227 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
rm_duke999974 43 M
1  Article
Is it so hard to say your not interested?   10/29/2005

For the past few weeks i've been sending out emails to a select group of women, that match my cupid settimgs. A few send a response back and we have chatted, but the rest of them do not send anything back, but keep viewing my profile daily. In my emails I ask them to send a response either way, most don't. I thought we are all adults on this site, but I'm beginning to think there are more ...

4 Comments, 318 Views, 9 Votes ,3.85 Score
rm_rockhardbull 54 M
1  Article
A response to 'Alikh69'   10/25/2005

<initial message> Me and my girl might be interested. We need to see good face pics of both of you and his basic body pic. You can see us at 'hotpintsize' here on Shagbook... Hope to hear from you... <br> D & S ('rockhardbull') <br> <response> Hi D&S, Thanks for the invitation. As you can see from our profile, we are extremely selective in our social and ...

2 Comments, 92 Views, 0 Votes
hrdwrknhrdplayn 38 C
1  Article
Is there anybody out there besides me that actually bothers to say no thanks?   10/24/2005

I seriously wonder if I am the only person who takes the time to send a no thanks to someone who doesn't match what I'm searching for. If you spend the time trying to write a well thought out and appropriate hello to someone, and they are not interested, how hard is it to just write no thanks? It is really upsetting to get ignored. Hey, Shagbook even makes it easy for you, there is a huge list ...

2 Comments, 164 Views, 4 Votes ,3.25 Score
DorianVampire 44 M
0  Articles
Some women can't take NO for an answer either...   10/19/2005

Ok, I want to tell you a little story. Its about a girl named Sarah I met on this site. Her profile has since been deleted so don't bother looking her up. <br> Anyway, a while back she sent me a message and we began to e-mail back and forth. She seemed cool, had some interesting view points, but was a bit scattered. Since I am not looking for hook ups I regarded the entire ...

4 Comments, 355 Views, 16 Votes ,6.51 Score
havfunwitme694 50 M
5  Articles
why say no   10/19/2005

why say no when you can say yes and have fun its just haveing sex its not like your going to marry them

2 Comments, 225 Views, 8 Votes
rm_gr8lvr05 47 M
3  Articles

Ok, I'm a guy on this site. When I see a email in my inbox I become a bit giddy. Unfortunately, some of these emails are from members I wouldn't want in bed. Then one I was fooling around with my 'account settings' and found a way to Block emails from unwanted members. <br> >Click *My Account* located on the top of the page. <br> >Find *Preferences*, ...

1 Comments, 888 Views, 25 Votes ,2.80 Score
a2m4u2me 55 M
9  Articles
Guys - what do you think?   9/15/2005

Okay, you've waded through and found a good one. But, when you get in person, they don't look like the pic they gave you. I don't mean the old, "Here's my cheerleading picture in HS." I mean, someone who has let themselves go a bit from just a few months...What are your best getaways?

2 Comments, 622 Views, 14 Votes ,3.94 Score
I have a headache........   9/14/2005

We've experienced several meetings where the couple had not been honest on their profile, pictures and/or emails (need I say more?). My hubby, being as rude as usual, says we should just leave, while I on the other hand think we should dance around our disappointment so as to not hurt their feelings. Both reasons have merrit, but so far hubby has won out and we have just left. Any ...

3 Comments, 328 Views, 9 Votes ,4.07 Score
rm_2sexmex 46 C
1  Article
When they say no PLEASE dont push!   9/14/2005

First of all I want to say hi to all my lifestyle colegues, And I wanna comment on something... How many times that you go on a swing date you end up with someone that doesnt atract you at all, somebody you dont like, I know what some of you are gonna say SEX is not all in the lifestyle and I agree is about friendship too, but SEX is the primary reason we are registerd in this webpage and ...

0 Comments, 305 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
wantsyou4sex2 113 M
3  Articles
Turned down and loving it   9/9/2005

Sometimes its best to get turned down on sites like these. With all the possibilities out there its nice that people narrow down you options for you.

1 Comments, 115 Views, 7 Votes ,3.04 Score
how to accept when otheres sy "no thanks"   9/9/2005

i am always in a worry when others say no thanks. it reduces sme confidence in myself. other problem is when someone doesnt respond atall. so how to deal with this problem. can anyone give some advice. maybe its because i am new to this all. anyway advices welcome.

3 Comments, 259 Views, 4 Votes ,4.02 Score
ilickallnight 34 M
3  Articles
No Means NO   9/3/2005

Guys when woman say no it means no respect a womans wishes and if she is not in the mood to have sex or blow you give up dont bug her it makes you look desperate and pathetic and only wanting one thing from them, grow up boys

0 Comments, 296 Views, 5 Votes ,3.14 Score
rm_BnKnNC 42 C
7  Articles
Up Front   9/1/2005

Be up front with a prospective individual. Let them know what you want, want you expect, and what they can expect. <br> If you do this, it makes it a lot easier when the time comes to break it off and say No Thanks.

0 Comments, 286 Views, 9 Votes ,3.43 Score
IF THE DICK IS LITTLE LET HIM KNOW!!!!!!!!!!   8/30/2005


7 Comments, 684 Views, 27 Votes ,3.24 Score
When no matter how you say it, it wasn't good enough   8/30/2005

Thought I would relate a quick story to you regarding having to say no thnks, and having it get ugly. Real ugly. So, I attend a meeting of some people looking "for a good time" and am immediatley attracted to a brunette with a great rack. she had beautiful eyes and smile and I was quite taken. As the evening goes on, we begin to flirt and I can tell that she is taken with me as well. ...

5 Comments, 516 Views, 13 Votes ,3.48 Score
wifey3223 55 F
20  Articles
dont feel sorry for me,im " gods ' for real,heart & soul   8/28/2005

Theres more to me then sex, freakyness, squirting . yes, i love big dicks/cocks & more. yes, i want a happy , pospors relationship, but good things come to those who waits. good things come to those with pure hearts, souls, good ententions. i mean no one no harm, i dont mean to hurt anyones feelings. and , if i have to anyone i always say sory to them or god. i wrote about my current bf, im ...

0 Comments, 130 Views, 4 Votes ,3.63 Score
down4anything000 41 M
5  Articles
wish women were more upfront   8/27/2005

Just took a class on human sexuality, and found that the girls couldnt believe that guys dont get the "subtle hints" they drop on us if they arent interested. I wish they'd just say so! Wouldnt hurt my feelings (pride, maybe!). I say out with the games and gimmics - let us know, it'll make life easier for the both!! Aloha

2 Comments, 200 Views, 10 Votes ,4.58 Score
rm_Stewbydoo69 45 M
2  Articles
No has never meant YES   8/26/2005

Whilst chatting in the rooms, I have noticed that a few ppl are impolite when told NO. They don't like to be told NO and they hope that if they persist, they will get you to change your mind. <br> Well it won't. NO means NO, not maybe, or I'll think about it, or keep trying and i'll then say yes. NO basically means NO in whichever language you want. If you persist, you may get ...

1 Comments, 80 Views, 2 Votes ,3.12 Score
cplseeksfml4fun 44 C
9  Articles
Why is it that most men can't take no for a answer?   8/22/2005

We have been a member on here for a while. In our profile it states that we are a couple looking for a couple or a bi female. So why is it that most single men can't take no for a answer and still manage to send messeges to you thinking that you are a single female? We are happily married and aren't looking for a single male yet we receive so many messeges from single men all the time. Do ...

4 Comments, 186 Views, 9 Votes ,4.28 Score
asmokincouple 40,1938 C
1  Article
Why can't older men realize age limits.   8/18/2005

I have only been a member for a short period of time, and within that time, i have had alot of older men try to hook up with me and my bf. Pay attention to age limits people. It sucks to tell someone that they are too old, and that you aren't interested. And it sucks even more when they think just because they are older means they can please me. You know a way you can please me, respect ...

12 Comments, 766 Views, 31 Votes ,4.77 Score
rm_howie5000 62 M
4  Articles
no   8/17/2005

no means no and every one should understand that and follow it

0 Comments, 85 Views, 5 Votes ,3.80 Score
HomerBigSlick 36 M
3  Articles
Help   8/17/2005

I met a girl in person after a few weeks of chatting on-line. We got along very well, but when we met in person, she didn't look anything like the picture she sent. I was very turned off when I saw her. I wanted to leave, but I didn't want to be rude. Any advice for getting out of this type of situation?

8 Comments, 503 Views, 11 Votes ,4.85 Score
dzcalikutz 65 F
1  Article
420 abuse on Shagbook!   8/16/2005

recent;y i was directed by the adult freindfinder staff to cease and desist any or all references to drug use in my profile ! i complied(underderess)to the (demand)request!i was under the impression that this was an "ADULT" dating site and that a offended party could and would pass me up for sumthing more suited to their taste ... but as we ...

5 Comments, 594 Views, 41 Votes ,3.78 Score
Is it possible?   8/14/2005

Have you ever been in that situation? You know, where you just really don't want to go into anything and your partner does? <br> What is the easiest way for you to break the news?

0 Comments, 169 Views, 6 Votes ,2.80 Score
Have you ever turned down sex with someone really attractive   8/13/2005

Do you ever find yourself looking back on life's choices and saying what was I thinking? I find myself in that situation almost daily. I can remember back to my teens when a really hot girl wanted to have sex with me so bad she at some points begged. The only reason I couldn't do it is because she was engaged. At the time I could only think what if I was that guy. I would be furious ...

1 Comments, 264 Views, 13 Votes ,3.65 Score
the sea is full of fish!   8/8/2005

it is o.k. to say no thanks to a propisition. If someone says no or isn't ready for a relationship, respect their right to say no. it isn't just men who can't take no for an answer. so all you ladies respect the right of men, because we have feelings too.

1 Comments, 340 Views, 10 Votes ,4.58 Score
lolitaposh 48 C
1  Article
New to Shagbook!   8/6/2005

Well, hello friends would like to start by saying this is our first week on Shagbook & the response we've gotten is absolutely "GREAT"!! The people are very friendly, polite, & sexy! Looking forward to that first meeting with the guy of our choice & then hopefully moving on to my first experiance with female or couple, whichever cumms first!This cumming week should be very interesting as we do ...

1 Comments, 207 Views, 11 Votes ,3.35 Score
FunForOneNite 55 M
1  Article
I'm cool about it...   8/3/2005

I usually reply and I'm always nice about it if they're not right for me. I just say 'Hi & thanks for the interest.' It makes me happy that someone took a look at my profile and liked what they saw.

0 Comments, 58 Views, 5 Votes ,3.14 Score
Ladies, are you tired of the   8/2/2005

Maybe it is just me, but every time I write to a fellow it seems he is quick to go to the "if you are for real" card. For example, "if you are for real, e-mail me at xxxxxxx, or IM me tonight". Personally, I find this insulting, fellas. Maybe some people are not "for real" on this site and you are just reacting habitually in that fashion. You should think first, though, before saying ...

8 Comments, 414 Views, 23 Votes ,4.41 Score
guys 4 guys needs subcatagories   7/30/2005

The thing I keep running into is other bottoms. The men 4 men section needs to be subdivided into "top" and "bottom", just as the men's adds are divided into men 4 men and men 4 women. Otherwise we have to go by what the add says and some ads don't say so you end up hitting on someone with the wrong preference.

0 Comments, 67 Views, 0 Votes
sxyblondedbnaz 61 F
2  Articles
Just Say It   7/27/2005

Unfortunately not everyone clicks ... sometimes the chemistry is not there for one or the other. Just be honest and say it. You can do it in a nice way .. something like .. "I think your terrific but the chemistry isn't there" .. some will take it good and some will get nasty. I am considered a MILF because of my age and the way I look, so I get hit on alot by younger guys. Now, I have no ...

8 Comments, 379 Views, 14 Votes ,5.70 Score
funcouple49601 64,1961 C
5  Articles
Is there a proper way   7/24/2005

After chatting, meet and greet or whichever way you meet and you don't feel a "connection" but they do you tell him, her or them that it just isn't there?

1 Comments, 173 Views, 5 Votes ,1.51 Score
rm_ClubFounder 39 M
1  Article
Why Gay & Bisexual Men Bug Straight Men   7/23/2005

(1) Your posting your pictures here to view. (2) Because everyone can view your your pictures, many males find them sexy and appealing. (3) You can help what mother nature has given you. (4) A lot of men are wondering if your swingers, from what most of you are saying no not that way (5) This site seems to cater more to straights, ...

0 Comments, 155 Views, 11 Votes ,1.86 Score
rm_A_Z_A 56 F
5  Articles
In All Sincerity!   7/22/2005

Please read the person's profile, if possible. You may not fit what they're seeking. Why place a person in the postion of saying no thank you, if you are not what they seek. <br> <br> I am real and have my wants and limitations posted, so if you disregard what I'm seeking, than why should I be obligated to send you a response. <br> <br> But anyway, ...

1 Comments, 291 Views, 19 Votes ,6.29 Score
rm_KptonDaDL 48 M
1  Article
Say Something!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   7/22/2005

Think back to the time when you went out with your family, friends, school, ECT... you started to look around and you see someone you just could not take your eyes off, so you finally built up the courage to approach that person and have a short conversation. You offer to exchange numbers and the person replies how about you give me your number instead? I will call you the first thing that ...

0 Comments, 86 Views, 3 Votes ,3.92 Score
men are eager, women are not   7/21/2005

I did a little survey on Shagbook. I wrote that I was gay and got bombarded by responses from men. Willing to do anything and meet anywhere. Women on the other hand, want to correspond with you. Get to know you. What's up with that? <br> Yes, all men are whores but women act refine and yet want the same things. For men, they get right to the punch line without asking for much in ...

2 Comments, 135 Views, 7 Votes ,1.77 Score
TailGateMom25 43 F
2  Articles
To be mean or not to be mean??   7/18/2005

Why don't men understand that when we don't's because we don't want to be mean!! If we reply and say "Thanks, but no thanks" or "Sorry, not interested", it makes us feel like we are being mean. When we delete your profile and forget it was there, it's just our little way of not even coming close to getting your hopes up at all. I am sorry guys, but i am sick of the reply that ...

5 Comments, 288 Views, 11 Votes ,2.98 Score
TailGateMom25 43 F
2  Articles
How do you not seem mean?   7/18/2005

So many of us get on this site everyday to see if we can find what we're looking for. But why is it that the people we send messages to never reply back to us, yet...we don't reply to the people that contact us ourselves?? For me, I still do enjoy getting on here in hopes that i will find that person that fits my needs at this time, but in 10-20 more years, will we still be single and ...

0 Comments, 99 Views, 8 Votes ,3.01 Score
rm_10plusmore 39 M
1  Article
When to say no.   7/17/2005

I have found that is is best to tell the other person things are not going to work out when serious doubts and problems arise. I feel this is the best time, it avoids wasting both of our time.

1 Comments, 120 Views, 4 Votes ,3.25 Score
kitten1967 56 F
0  Articles
which one am I.........   7/10/2005

honestly, I beleive that I am a nice person. So, I am trying to figure out which one I am... a bitch or a .Reason for asking this when I say no to someone on Shagbook they seem to think I am being nasty to just them. When actually my mate has a say in whom I choose for us.I beleive in his instincts, there for if I do not choose someone it is because Iam being careful not either of the above , ...

0 Comments, 191 Views, 12 Votes ,3.86 Score
arliss007 50 M
3  Articles
Is it me or,,   7/10/2005

The people who have profile pics getting fucked are genreally the ones that say "must be D&D free" or "D&D free a must" but they're not using protection!?! What's the deal with that? To that I say, No thanks...

2 Comments, 129 Views, 6 Votes ,3.08 Score
rm_nabber72 52 M
3  Articles
pubic hair   7/10/2005

Is there anyone else that is getting tired of completly shaved females? I miss landing strips!! I find it some much sexier to have a small patch of hair to nuzzle my nose against, I'm not opposed to hard wood floors nice for a change for for the every day give me an arrow, heart, love patch whatever you wanna name it! DO find untamed wollies to bit a bit of a turn off. I'm I the only one ...

4 Comments, 169 Views, 5 Votes ,5.10 Score
rm_nabber72 52 M
3  Articles
please be polite   7/9/2005

I relieze that I am the major majority here single male looking for almost anything, but it irkes me when I send someone an email with pic and a little blurb about me and get no response, if your not interested I can handle just say thanx for showing interest but your not what we want, promblem solved.

1 Comments, 66 Views, 2 Votes ,3.81 Score
midnight_lotus 39 F
8  Articles
How much is too much?   7/7/2005

Okay ladies, this one is for you. We hear it all the time. We "never" reply to guys emails. But out of all the hundreds we get. How can we afford the time to reply? Not all of us can. But yet some of us auto reply. In an attempt to be even minutly polite. Still some guys just can NOT take a hint. So what do you do in these situations? Do you just put them on ignore, or do you continue to ...

6 Comments, 422 Views, 16 Votes ,4.30 Score
oz chicks are harder   7/6/2005

In my experience in this world it is quite clear to me that it would be harder to get a root from an Australian chick rather from an American chick. With respect to all you lovely American ladies but i think you are more liberated than ours.

0 Comments, 149 Views, 3 Votes ,2.45 Score
redfish102 62,1956 C
4  Articles
Say what you mean!!   7/1/2005

Are there still people out there who know how to say what they mean and be tactful? I have to ask because it seems like most people I have had any contact with in this site say they want to meet but never get back to set anything up. Most of these contacted me first, but as soon as I agree to meet, they disappear. If you change your mind why not just have the courtesy and courage to let the ...

2 Comments, 95 Views, 10 Votes ,5.18 Score
sdgentleman69 50 M
10  Articles
After you have met with someone for sex...   7/1/2005

Saying 'No Thanks' after you have already met and had sex is difficult (I think). You don't want to hurt their feelings, but you also don't really ever want to see them again. <br> Maybe they just want to be friends. I just want to meet, fuck, and if it was good do it again and again. But, if it was not good, then I don't want to bother or be bothered by that person again. ...

2 Comments, 183 Views, 10 Votes ,1.59 Score
Yumee6969 38 M
8  Articles
NO   6/30/2005

Being a man, when I say no to someone, they listen and dont argue. But it seems that men dont listen when women say no. It is hard to judge a book by its cover, but it is dangerous to open a book with out knowing the contents of the book. Im not saying that people should live thier lives in fear, but they should always have someone with them that they can trust. You might think that you ...

0 Comments, 70 Views, 4 Votes ,2.47 Score
dynamitesneon 41 M
10  Articles
Best way   6/28/2005

How do you tell someone you don't find them sexually attractive without loosing the friend parts? Should I be straightforeward, or what?

1 Comments, 95 Views, 4 Votes ,4.02 Score
sexycowboy24 39 M
9  Articles
Turn Downs   6/28/2005

I have received a few offers from members who i am not attracted to, what is the best way to tell them no thanks?

1 Comments, 81 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
Top Ten women's replys to Men that cannot comprehend that women are what you seek:   6/27/2005

The Top Ten women's replys to Men that cannot comprehend that women are what you seek are: <br> 10. Thanks for the invite ... however, I am looking for chicks without dicks. <br> 9. I would not let my sniff your ass. <br> 8. What part of NO MEN did you not understand <br> 7. While your tits may be a D cup, you do not have the right equipment below ...

2 Comments, 361 Views, 35 Votes ,2.45 Score
If your not interested then your not interested   6/27/2005

I get a lot of emails and invites almost every day, being the new person I try to be as kind and gentle and honest as I can . keeping in mind others feelings. Ive had to post this reply to quite a few people and I dont feel that I was rude in any way.. <br> " Thank you for taking the time to write me & your interest in me and your nice comments and compliments but I feel I must ...

3 Comments, 547 Views, 45 Votes ,7.76 Score